Bless this Mess

As I sit and think about all the things I need to get done before my lovely baby gets here I get very frustrated. Is it that need a bigger house? or would a bigger house mean MORE mess and more places to hide a mess? or honestly would I be happy with a bigger house? I have sat and stewed over this situation for hours, it even keeps me up at night. I think to myself "If I move that here and put this here, where oh where am I going to put that! This is my never ending battle. I learned, well more like inherited the pile system. My mother and my grandmother, and I'm sure it goes all the way back in our family, have this system where we make piles of stuff, they are not even organized piles they are just piles, and they are EVERYWHERE! When Nathanael or I are looking for something we start looking through all the piles of paper, odds and ends, and clothes. Its not like I don't know how to organize or keep a neat house, I can and I always start out fine and then a week or two later its a disaster again. I have a hard time keeping up on the dishes and I have got better with this, instead of leaving the dishes for a week I'm only leaving them 2 or 3 days but its still bad enough where I dread it and I know once I start doing them Ill get them done but its just getting to them. I am not to bad at tidying but it really just gets thrown in another pile then resorted into another pile. I really just don't know what to do anymore. With this baby I don't really need to buy everything, I know that its a girl and I wont probably use any blue stuff but I'm sure that i wont have to buy anything so all I really have to do is get the house ready for her. But how can I do that when our spare room (supposed to be the nursery) is so full of stuff that we cant even open the door, our room is stacked to the brink with everything that we don't want the boys to get into, like books and Cd's and movies and also our old bed. Our ensuite bathroom has a table in it and chairs that we haven't used since we moved in over 2 years ago, a crib and bunk beds that our boys wont be able to use till they are much older. The boys room is basically empty till you open the closet and then its full of baby stuff that I will need when the baby gets here and toys that they no longer play with. Our storage (if you can even call it that) in the basement is full of Christmas decorations and all of the boys clothes and all of our books that we haven't read in years but don't want to get rid of cuz we might read them again or our boys will someday. Our shed is like the spare room you cant even open the door without something falling on your head. Its full of all Nathanaels stuff, lawn stuff and all my parents treasures that they are storing here till their shop is done. My closets are also full to the doors of stuff that we use everyday. So where in this house do I put anything let alone another BABY. My goal is that I can get the spare room all cleaned out and all of my craft stuff etc. organized and the babies crib and change table set up so that she can have a little girls room and I can have a room to do all my hobbies in. But my question is how do I do this when I shouldn't be lifting anything that's in there, I can hardly bend over and I am constantly running after and telling 2 toddlers no all day. Then I think Ill wait till Nathanael gets home, but my answer to that is and has been proven, hes to tired and if hes not one of us still has to watch the kids and if I'm not there helping him he gets frustrated and gives up because he doesn't know where to put stuff. I then organize a weekend that we will both be home without the kids and we end up taking off somewhere together or just spending the weekend together because we hardly get alone time. So what am I supposed to do, I have pretty much given up all hope of getting the babies room ready in time. I was so looking forward to putting up all my glass dolls and all my girly things in her room so we both could enjoy them together but there is no way in the next 8 weeks I can even fathom that happening!