Being Mom

After this past week of posting, talking to other moms and reading about different parenting styles I want to talk more about it. Having many girl friends that are Mommy's we often talk about kids, parenting methods and more. Recently I connected with a friend that now is a new Mom. She told me how frustrated she was with all the stigmas to do with being a mom. As mothers we are all under constant watch and are always being judged. Its easy for me to say "I don't care what other people think" but to a new mom that's next to impossible. As mothers we are judged on breast feeding, co sleeping, what food to give the baby and when, soothers, circumcisions and more. Really I have heard it all, having even heard that I was crazy for my life choice of having four children and constantly being asked when number five is coming. As a new mom you feel lost and confused at the best of times, you run on next to no sleep and always doing new things. There are things no one tells you about having a baby or two or the next or the next. Having four kids I have seen a lot and have encountered many people judging my decisions. Surrounding myself with other moms was one of the best things I have ever done. Having so many friends who all have different aged kids, a different amount of kids and different habits and opinions, I am constantly learning. In our little group of mommy's we have the co sleepers, long term and short term breast feeders, formula only babies, circumcised and not. We have preemies, and oppsies, we have mommy's with one and mommy's with six. There are stay at home and working, hubby's that are away and home. Sometimes we get into heated conversations about hot topics but we never judge each other. I know I can go to any one of them and ask for help on any subject and they will work it out with me, give me their opinions and help me out the best they can. I couldn't be the Mom I am today and I am happy to call them my friends and a few my "sisters." I take back what I said last week about being called Supermom. I was dealing with some issues that mad me feel very un super and at that moment I didn't feel I had earned the title. After talking with some people and especially my mom, I learned a few things. To some people I do look like Super Mom,I juggle four kids, a husband, two businesses and a household. I appreciate the comment and thank you to those who look up to me and who truly think I am supermom. I know I can improve on myself and I know I can constantly learn more. picture credit to Perfect Pix'l Photography